In my life, as I’ve mentioned here before, I try to live as transparently as possible. I also try to be honest at all times as best as I can. This isn’t hard, in my view, because spinning a web of lies (and a lie always leads to more lies..) seems like a lot more work to me than just being blunt up front. Perhaps this is just my inner German coming out.
Anyway… despite all of this, one thing has been clear to me for a while now and that is that Truth is a Weapon. What I mean by this is that telling someone the truth is not necessarily always going to be an easy thing and that, by its very nature (and perhaps more due to the inner nature of most humans), truth is something sharp and something that can often cause people pain.
Truth is not warm and fuzzy and soft. It pierces and cuts.
For these reasons, one should always be quite precise when using the truth with others. It should be used as a scalpel and it should be used carefully. Wielding it clumsily and swinging it about without thought is likely to cause significant carnage and much scarring in many instances.
Thus, while I always advocate that people be honest and transparent with each other to the best of their ability–be careful about making truth claims and using them to get your way unless you really know what you are doing, lest you find yourself causing havoc and damage where previously there was none…